Take last night for example. I had just put Lil J to bed and went to the washroom to take a shower. Just as I was jumping in the shower, Miss S knocked on the door asking if she could use the washroom. I told her I had just gotten in the shower and she knows that I don't take that long. My husband, on the the other hand, can take up to two hours in the washroom. It's a known fact.
The problem with our situation is that we are currently a family of four with only one washroom. Yup, you heard that right. One washroom. Miss S is a tween going on 16 so you know what that means. At least two washrooms are needed in this household.
Anyways, my husband questioned why I hadn't unlocked the door while I was in the shower so that Miss S could use the washroom. First of all, I was in the shower. Secondly, I've unlocked the door before and she didn't want to go while I was in the washroom {understandably so} because she obviously wanted her privacy. Lastly, I take pride in my showers. It's the only peaceful alone time I have to myself in the day where I can sort of just relax. It's my me time. So I'm sorry that I refuse to share the washroom with Miss S but I feel like I have the right to 10 minutes alone.
Then my husband brings up the fact that he always unlocks the door for me while he's in the shower so I can use the toilet. Ummm...duh....I'm pregnant - in case you haven't noticed. Miss S isn't. Plus did I mention he takes 1-2 hours in the washroom? A pregnant woman cannot wait that long.
And, no, Miss S never uses the toilet while he's in the shower. That's kind of wrong.
This isn't the first time my husband has gotten all huffy about something he thought I had done to Miss S because of my apparent dislike towards her. One time I had washed all the white towels and left her towel {which was a dark colour, by the way} because 1) it wouldn't fit in the wash and 2) I don't mix my whites and darks. He didn't seem to notice all the other dark coloured towels still hanging in the washroom. Good lord.
I was just offended, once again, by my husband's comments. If I didn't care for his daughter or if I had a problem with her, I wouldn't be with him let alone factoring her needs in our plans to have children {I didn't want there to be a huge age gap between Miss S and her siblings - if I could help it}, consistently nagging her about her homework, etc etc. If I truly didn't care for his daughter, I just wouldn't care. Period.
I think the reason why I'm so offended is because I've helped him raise her for the past 6 years. She lives with us full-time and I feel like any kid that lives in our household has to live under our rules.
Do you think my husband was overreacting? Do you think I'm overreacting?
